Instead of investing time trying to make a round peg fit in a square hole, why not hold out? We spend so much time on the hunt for "the one" that we forget that the relationship we have with ourselves is the one that's the most important! It determines our destiny and the quality of partner we will ultimately attract!
So, for anyone in the heat of the hunt who has hit the point of exhaustion and is ready to settle, convinced true love will never come along... here are three reasons why it's worth it to hold out for the real thing.
Never wonder again
We've all spent time waiting for that phone call, wondering if they like us, worried they are interested in someone else. But when you meet the person that's really for you (whether it's forever or for a while), the unease often goes out the window. While you shouldn't blindly accept that you've met "the one" (because analysis and exploration are important and healthy), you'll have a feeling of excitement in the possibility.
What are the keys to this peaceful feeling? Self-confidence and honesty. If you can find them when you're solo, you'll be more likely to bring them to your relationships - and you'll make better choices about who to date!
Relax
If you're like most people, at some point in your life, you've lost a little of who you are in order to please someone else. Whether you gave up an activity, changed your hairstyle or even just kept your mouth shut, you may have done less than the best by yourself because you thought it was what they wanted.
One of the best things about a successful relationship is that it's your job just to be you - because that's who they want you to be, and more importantly, that's who you are! When you find the person for you, efforts to "make yourself appealing" cease because you already are. Now that doesn't mean you don't get dressed up, or buy lingerie or do your best to take care of yourself - it simply means that you get to abandon efforts to make yourself into something you're not.
Get what you give
How many times have you thought, "I'm always giving, giving, giving but what do I get?" Or "I wish they would do (fill in the blank) for me?" If you've had a lifetime (or even one time) of dating the wrong person, it's probably happened a lot. The good news is, when you do find the right match, you'll get as much as you give. Now that's not to say that you're beloved is guaranteed to be considerate or helpful around the house. What it means is that you'll be able to express your needs and get them met, as well as being open to what your partner needs.
The opposite side of the equation above - when you're just not that into them - can be just as unfulfilling, because you're not participating in the relationship. A participatory relationship is one that shows promise. The same goes for your relationship with yourself. Get active about creating the life you want, and watch your energy and self-esteem increase tenfold!
